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Discovery Seminar Houston, TX Jan 26-27-28-07In January I began my journey to a new life and a happy
family. I attended Discovery. I went into this seminar not really
knowing what it was all about. My son had just graduated Discovery and
was very excited. If he was excited then I knew I would be too. I
thought I would learn about why my son was having problems. As the
facilitator began the seminar I knew this was not about my son but about me. I
learned about my magical child deep within me that had got lost under all the
layers of life's ups and downs. As I examined myself I realized that I
had fixed beliefs that caused my emotions and behavior to create the outward
image I showed to those around me. Some of my beliefs were self-limiting
and had developed as a child. I let those beliefs take over my life and
create walls around me so that I could not get close to anyone including my own
family. These beliefs had carried over into every single relationship
throughout my life. This had kept my son at arms length and our
communication shut down. This was heartbreaking knowing that I had kept
him away not the other way around.
Discovery taught me the importance of accountability in everything in my life. By being accountable it makes me responsible for all my choices. Honesty and integrity become imperative in this journey with ones self and with others. One of the exercises we did was feedback. Feedback requires an open mind and to understand that no one can hurt my feelings. If you listen to feedback with an open heart and mind it is surprising how beneficial it is. I was surprised during feedback when those in my small group observed things about me that I thought was hidden by the image I portrayed. By being honest with my feedback to questions presented by the facilitator I could then receive feedback from my group members. I learned how not to be a victim but be accountable for my life. When we discussed our level of commitment in our small groups I said I was a +5 on the scale which means DOING WHATEVER IT TAKES to be consistently accountable for my actions. The accountability formula has you stop and look at the event and make a conscious choice about how to respond and not just react. Then to practice constantly to take each new choice in life and use the accountability formula. By doing this I become accountable for my behavior and emotions and break out of the old way of doing things that didn't work in the past. On the second day of Discovery we went through the release process. This was an emotional day filled with every emotion imaginable. Several exercises in imagery were used throughout the day. I was able to delve deep into my life and bring out alot of the events and issues I had been running and hiding from. This was the most incredible day of the seminar. Even though it was completely exhausting emotionally it was as if a weigh had been lifted from my shoulders. I learned things about me that I had no idea were there deep inside. At the end of this day I was no longer a +5 on the commitment scale. I am now a +10 because I will DO WHATEVER IT TAKES not only for me but for my son as well. The easy way would have been to resist and shut down because the release process is painful. I chose to give it my all and it was so worth it. The third day of the seminar I felt like I had a new lease on life. I am consciously making an effort to use the accountability formula in my life everyday and keep my agreements no matter how insignificant they are. I am signed up for Focus and can hardly wait. I encourage every parent to go to Discovery. If you just go in with an open and willing mind and heart the rest will fall into place. You are worth it and so is your child. I know this is just the beginning of a life changing journey but it will be a wonderful journey filled with change and growth. Another wonderful part of Discovery is all the great friendships you form with other parents and the staff who are on the same journey as you. Bev Sandoval Son at Spring Creek Lodge |
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